My new gay BFF

So... I met this guy the other day, who told me how pumped his (female) best friend was that he was gay, and she finally had a gay friend (although he was bi). Which really got me thinking about my own friends and how amazingly excited they seem about me being gay, sometimes hysterically so.

I don't get it!

Are we the new chihuahuas? Why do so many straight women find having a gay best friend is like the best thing next to owning an iPhone? Am I missing something here? Sure, we have things in common... like perhaps our fascination for other hot men but then... is that really such a unifying factor? I mean, you have girlfriends for that, dont you?

Or is it just a happy feeling to know a guy you don't have to work hard to impress, mostly 'cause we don't care.... or is it just suddenly cool to know someone who's gay?

Lemme know what you feel... comments welcome!

Gay is Good 3: You've got great Role models...

There are so many great gay/bi men in history to look up to, I'm not saying that there aren't any good straight role models (ahem) but the best ones who did the greatest things were actually gay or at least have been alluded to it by many a credible historians.

Like Alexander the Great, Leonardo Da Vinci, Salvador Dali, Saladin, Aristotle, Joan of Arc, Sappho,J. Edgar Hoover, Michelangelo, Eleanor Roosevelt, Julius Caesar, James Dean, Socrates, Andy Warhol, Oscar Wilde, E M Forster... it's a long list, take your pick.

So, if nothing we can always take heart from the fact that regardless what the homophobes out there say about us, there's a lot that we have contributed to the great human culture pool. So if you're feeling down and out, think about these great gay men and women, I alwways find that a quick fix.

Got any more to add to this list?

My Wallies - Free Wallpapers

Hey I was trying my hand at Photoshop and created these for my Laptop from my private collection of hot guy pics. The resolution is 1280 x 800 cuz i have a 15" widescreen, by special request i can make these in normal desktop monitor sizes. Lemme know what you think...

Click for full size.

Gay is Good 2: ...I can do it 'cause I'm Gay

Well, the second reason is a really good one, well, if you're out that is!

Straight guys have to behave a certain way, just to keep up the image. They have to work really hard to maintain a macho image, and trust me it gets real old real fast. There are some things that you just can't do as a straight guy, no matter how bad you want to.

Take colours for example, try wearing pink and see what they do to you... Brutal!

Then there's other stuff, you can't have pretty drinks... it's always one of those boring manly drinks like beer and what not. And the clothes, you can never be the guy to start something new, NEVER! There's also wearing your heart on your sleeve, straight guys just don't emote or rather aren't suposed to. You can never watch Julia Roberts' movies and tell others about it (He He). You can't openly say you like Van Gogh or Salvador Dali, or even supposed to know who they are. You can't know every member of any boy-band without raising a few eye-brows. You can never get a bikini wax (Ouch!). You can't listen to Britney or Christina without talking about their asses and rack! Did I mention using more than any 4 grooming products is a strict NO NO. And... And... And well, you definitely CAN NOT sleep with men ;)

I'm not saying that as gay men you should do or want to do these things (except that last one). Heck! I'm not a big fan of Julia Roberts either but these only few of the things that we can get away with without being judged, all you gotta say is... Hey! I'm gay! Care to add a few more?

Reason 3... stay tuned!

Gay is Good 1: Love, Sex and the Homo!

Ok, I'm probably not the first person to think of this but just it hit me again just a couple of days ago.

I've been wondering for a long time about in how many ways can being gay be better than being straight and honestly, I found more reasons than I had begun to seek.


Relationships and Sex:

This I believe is the most 'fun'damental of all differences.

I know that most straight guys go through the whole dating and caring phase of a relationship to get to the real stuff, yup, the fucking. Most guys would put out much easily than girls.... aaah, who am I kidding, all guys!

Straight guys stick to being loving and caring and patient to get to the sex, and then, most of the time it just wanes. I'm not trying to generalise but come on, am I right or am I right?

Now when you're dating guys, sex is the first thing that happens. We're all, always horny so its also most likely to happen even before the conversation part of a date. But thats the beauty of it see. NO, No! I'm not being a lech, think about it. Once the sex is over and the guy is still being nice and sweet and caring, and wants to meet you, you know that theres something there. So, when gay guys date, or rather, continue to... we mean it. I'm sure straight guys do too, but you never know.

Anyway, this was one of the reasons why GAY IS GOOD!

Stay tuned.... Reason 2 coming up soon...

Second skin...

Saw this ad for a fabric softener a couple of days ago... talk about comfy!

Check out the jeans...






PS: For guys who have either weak eye-sights or are slightly retarded: the clothes are painted on!

Long Distance (Online) Relationships:

You know you think there are things that you'll never do and then, you turn a corner and Bang! you're in a long distance relationship with a guy you've never met in your life. Yeah, I know you're eyebrows are going up right now but pull 'em down... there's more.

I've wondered about it to... all the things that you're thinking of. About the lack of physical intimacy, the distance, the cultural difference and not to mention sexual compatibility; all very important issues in a REAL relationship. And mind you, I'm a very practical person. I don't get swayed by emotions as easy as the next fag (much :D) And I'm not gonna say that when you're in love, nothing else matters; because IT DOES!

Its weird, the last post here said that I'd made up my mind to get into a relationship soon but I didn't think it would happen like this, not in my wildest dreams. And to push the surreal meter even further it happened in true Bollywood fashion, started with a fight and hate and then there we were.

I'll be honest, I don't know what this is... is it really love or my curiosity getting the best of me. Maybe its the latter, but I still do feel strongly for the guy, if it's really true love I feel or something else, is something I'm willing to let time decide. Hopefully, by the end of it no hearts will be broken.Especially, his!

And if you're wondering how much that distance is, take a look at the map... I'm the pretty little pink dot and he's green.



PS: Next Post... Tomorrow!

21, Single and not so gay!

Ok, this is how it goes. I'll be turning 21 in another 24 hours and quite frankly I'm not happy about it. You know when I was thinking about my life in the next five years, some five years ago, I was pretty sure that by the time I'm 21 I'd have crossed at least some romantic milestones in my life but so far no such luck. Yes, I sleep around but thats as far as it has ever gotten... I know its too early for me to have settled down but is having a steady boyfriend such a utopian concept? I mean my last attempt at dating went crazy because I was seeing a orientation-confused posessive psychopath!

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not the type who's desperate for a 'man' in his life... far from it actually. What I want is a taste of something that I've read, heard and wrote about for a little over half a decade now. ROMANCE! And its not as if I have any dearth of options but its just that maybe, just maybe my own standards and expectations are working against me on this one. I've spent so many years writing impossibly romantic gay stories and chasing a guy who's virtually unattainable that I'm afraid I've made myself quite undateable. My standards are way too high and specific for any guy to be able to fulfil, and what I end up with are quick romps on bed and random chat sessions online.

And whats more confusing is that I'm not even that commitment centric, I might just switch BFs in a couple of months (cause thats just what I'm like) but for once I want to have that torrid affair. Have someone look at me in a googly-eyed weak-in-the-knees sorta way... now really, for a moderately appealing 21 year old gay guy who's easy on the eyes : IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK?

Hot Men Update!

Check out these visions of male beauty! Some of my favorites from my collection. Click to enlarge...Please post your reactions :)

Safe Sex: A love story...

Couple of videos that i discovered today through friends...

Both are about safe sex... especially love the first one, kinda long but totally cool!

Santa, please get me these for Christmas.

Think Hot, Think fabulous, Think Edgy, Think Witty. Think... Queer.

Just saw these on zazzle.com Click for enlarged view.

Santa, I'm giving you a heads up. I want these for christmas. :)

Hottest guys on the net...

These are some guys that I've come across while browsing.

Baba Ramdev... U win!

OK, So I was watching this interview of his on NDTV (i think) and the guy is so confident about of his notions of gay men (or as he likes to call us, homosex) that he spews junk without so much of a sliver of doubt or shame.

His ideas about morality didnt shock me as much as his idea of biology did. When asked about discrimination and the issue of ability of blood donation or rather the lack therof... he freaks out and says, "nahi nahi! yeh toh bilkul hi nahi hona chahiye"

why?

his explanations... well, since research claims that gayness is genetic (which should basically tell him its natural from the get go, but anyway...) he thinks, if the "genes" from a gay man's blood mixes with a str8 man's blood, the gay gene might corrupt the straight gene and make the str8 person gay. I mean, thats how much the guy knows about basic biology. Doesnt he wonder also, that mixing a woman's blood with a man's blood might also bring about the same result.

Im sorry, I can fight against prejudice, I can fight against discrimination, against ignorance... but baba ramdev u win.

...cuz i sure as hell cant fight stupidity! especially when theres so much of it to fight against!

I'm singin' in the rain... and how!!!

Guess who my latest crush is???

They showed us an old classic movie today to us in college called, "Singin' in the Rain" starring Gene Kelly. I fell in love with the man the moment i laid eyes on him. Gorgeous and charming, Gene Kelly is also a GREAT dancer, and I mean great. If you haven't yet seen this movie I suggest you do, its a musical and a great one at that!

I love Gene Kelly.... I'm singing in the rain, just singing in the rain.

The Gay greens

Now if you don't already realize what green I'm referring to let me just come out and say it, it's money. Moolah!!!

What the fashion industries across the world have realized that many (especially in India) haven't is that the gay-man population is perhaps the biggest demographic they should be catering to. I've been surfing youtube for quite some time and it didn't take me long to discover the fact. Many labels and brands have already realized the importance of the gay demographics and are targeting it exclusively.

I mean... think about it. Most of us do great at our jobs and make good money (talented as we are), we have no or lesser dependent families (more spending power) and we're fashion conscious.

Here's a great example of that trend... a Levi's ad that targets homosexual men. Makes me wanna go out and grab a new pair of 501's myself.